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| Kris | |||||
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  Posted: Tue May 19, 2009 8:37 pm |
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1. You don't want to be lonely do you? 2. Don't you need other people in order to survive? 3. Do you hate people? 4. Isn't that abnormal? 5. What about your friends, are you like an outcast or something? 6. Don't you care about your family?
1. Who's going to take care of you when you get old? 2. Don't you want a smaller version of yourself around? 3. What is the meaning of your life then? 4. Why don't you want to continue the legacy? 5. Aren't you being selfish? 6. What if you fall in love? I'm sure I'm not alone, but I was just wondering if you've already encountered some of these questions as of now, and I'd like to see what you'd have and/or like to say about them. |
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 8:13 pm |
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It's how I've redefined happiness for myself in recent years. I'm not someone that can live a traditional life of marriage, work, kids, family, etc. Thanks to my competitive nature and a successful father, my self-esteem drops through the floor if I have to ask anyone else for help or support. I despise being an imposition to anyone else, and if there's a scenario where I can complete a task myself without inconveniencing anyone else, I'll jump on it. And subsequently, I'm easily annoyed with anyone inconveniencing me or imposing on me when they can clearly complete the task themselves. I'm obviously not a team player. But since maintaining a marriage, kids, employment, etc., are beyond my immediate control, I strive for total independence. And since that is an attainable goal, I live by it and can honestly say I'm happy living alone in my own residence with my own possessions with my own means of independent income. I am so looking forward to mid-June. I'll finally have my own place with all my possessions again. God how I've missed that.
It's not so much want anymore. I've basically learned to not only accept it, but enjoy it. I thrive on solitude - I get so much more done in life. A life I now define by personal accomplishments.
In terms of income and the ability to purchase necessary goods, yes. In terms of social interaction... it's not a necessity. It's nice to have occasional interaction when I choose to have it, but a full-on constant barrage of company is maddening.
Only when they stand in the way of my intents.
No, everyone needs solitude at some point... I just want it more often. Plus, I'm so far from normal I'm allowed a few extremities.
I've always been the quietest. Surprisingly, I can mix well with most groups of people, but it takes a lot out of me if exercised too often. I simply prefer to think before I speak.
Well yeah. But I also need my space.
My 401K and a retirement home thanks to my 40+ years of diligently working towards alleviating this worry.
Hell no. I have too much of my father in me, and while I'd make a knowledgeable parent, I wouldn't make a very sympathetic or empathic parent. I look at it this way... if I were a single parent, would I want children? Absolutely not.
I gave up on finding meaning long ago. As long as I can live as comfortably as possible for the remaining years of my life, that's meaning enough.
I'll admit, continuing the namesake for future generations does have its appeal, but that argument should have no place in the decision to bring additional lives into this world.
No, it's a personal choice and everyone's entitled to have their own. Only organizations dependent on the money necessary to raise these children would have you believe otherwise.
Unlikely now to the point of extreme. With each successive relationship, I've loved and cared for each partner less and less. This isn't because each successive partner was of less worth, it was a means of self-protection thanks to negative reinforcement. I've now reached a point where engaging in another relationship would offset certain goals, and I'm not interested in sacrificing additional time.
I did see the other thread where the children questions were raised. It's just such an absurd possibility in my mind that reading topics like these are the only times I really entertain the idea of having children. Whew! And that concludes this DJ Jake interview.  |
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| Kris | |||
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Posted: Thu Jul 16, 2009 6:47 pm |
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| I also just remembered this but I also realized that some people would actually dislike loners for no apparent reason whatsoever. They're actually able to get annoyed or offended at people that haven't done anything to them in particular. Not that it matters, but that would be messed up if somebody disliked you right off the bat just because you prefer to be alone. It's happened to me before. I never really understood why others supposedly judge other people by the amount of friends they have. That's preposterous/asinine. if you ask me. |
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| DJ Jake | |||
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Posted: Thu Oct 08, 2009 8:08 pm |
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| Yeah... usually they just label me as anti-social. Then months pass and they find I'm not anti-social, I just keep quiet unless I have something worth saying. Like at work... been 3 months and I still only interact with about 4 people. |
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| Why didn't I get invited seahorse sea-Hell? |
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| Kris | |||
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Posted: Mon May 03, 2010 7:20 pm |
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| Here's another thing I don't get. Speaking of being alone and all, some people think I'm abnormal and in need of psychiatric help just because I don't want to go to church or parties that have anything to do with church members, relatives or my parent's friends. I do know one thing, if I manage to become successful and live on my own, I wouldn't be so inclined to call my parents or my relatives for that matter. It's not that I hate them, but I can be comfortable by myself. I like solitude. I hope your family members didn't try to single you out as an "odd" one for your choices. Even my friends and acquaintances must be at a safe distance in order for me to keep my sanity and my overall well-being intact. Breathing room and personal space can also mean just about everything to me as well.
There's a big difference between choosing my company and privacy, and going places with my family, while pretending to enjoy myself. It seems to me that I've become one of those stereotypical family members with pet peeves that would rather keep to himself. 
That's why I really like this lyric from ICP's Juggalo Homies. Really now, "If you wasn't blood, would you still have love? Or in fact does the blood make you have to love?" And on top of that, I honestly think that the less people I know about and care for (Or have to care for. Being indebted to others and vice versa.), the more convenient and comfortable/painless life would most likely be. |
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Posted: Mon May 03, 2010 8:44 pm |
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1. Me. 2. I shall call him... MINI ME!!! 3. Not listening to stupid questions like this one. 4. Who says I'm not? 5. Yes. Next question. 6. What if? What if I slipped on some soap in the shower... MY GOD I'D BE KILLED!!! |
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| DJ Jake | |||
Posts: 1166 Joined: 19 Apr 2009 |
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Posted: Tue Jun 01, 2010 7:45 pm |
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Kris, you and I are very alike in this regard. I get a weekend away from work and the last thought on my mind is who I want to see outside of work. I'm eager to retreat the evenings away after work and only rampage the city for a few hours accomplishing errands during the weekends. It doesn't help currently that my regular day job has quickly become among my least favorite positions to date either. Too many reasons to throw my hands up and say, "why bother?" while I piss some more time away on exploring ways of making additional profit. Should I go out more? Should I try to find a circle of friends despite living in a different city about every 2 years? Should I at least attempt to enjoy a more normal social life despite how uncomfortable it is to meet new people? Probably. Do I? No. Because there's no one forcing me to. And until that changes, I'll drift further and further away from that "normal" life everyone else seems to be having. |
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