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| Kris | |||
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  Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 11:39 pm |
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| I think that this is a part of reality that I've had an enormous difficulty grasping. Its concept used to elude me all the time. Now, I already knew that you can't please everybody, but I think I've figured out as to how and why. The answer was more succinct than I ever expected it to be. It's because there are people out there that'll obviously dislike, distrust, and even loathe you for no apparent reason. You don't have to even think about doing them wrong, or treating them badly in any way, shape, or form. What are your thoughts on this? I honestly used to think that if you're a good person, people in general would more than likely give you their seal of approval. I was very wrong about that. I was definitely way off. Last edited by Kris on Sun Apr 04, 2010 5:56 pm; edited 2 times in total |
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| Homshabom | |||
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 7:59 am |
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| I agree . No matter what you do, there will always be someone that will dislike you for no reason. I understand this, but I still stumble with it at times. |
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| "Run! I meant AWAY!" Sazh (Final Fantasy 13)
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| psychopathic_midget | |||
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 9:39 pm |
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| I often on first impression am one of these people and more often than not continue to be this way afterwords. It's a number of factors that make people this way. Speaking for myself here, here's the basics of it:
I've been fucked over many times. Most of the time by what I thought were my friends. As a result I'm suspicious enough of the friends I do have, why in the fuck would I want any more "friends"? So "friendly" strangers that just randomly decide they've known me since I was on the tit are twice as suspicious. Then there's also every male that has ever made an advance of any kind twoards my girlfriend. I know it's irrational and try as hard as I can not to show how much I would love to beat them like bobby did whitney. But it shows through and as a result, less people approach me. This also ties in with the other reason. Really it's just a sheild or shell of sorts that some people develop to protect themselves, and those they care about. Some of us simply take it a step or two too far. Sometimes we are very irrational about why we hate so deeply people we never have met before or don't know very well. I know I don't always need a good reason. Sometimes I'll pick a fight just because some ass hole looked at me the wrong way on a bad day. Hope this helps. |
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"Embrace our impermanence, for we all are perishable." -Cryptopsy      |
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| Kris | |||
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Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 4:08 pm |
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| With this topic under more consideration, while I think it's important to teach your children to be respectful and considerate, they should also know that just because they're being nice and kind to others doesn't necessarily mean that they're going to be liked by others. I'm still getting judged, and I'm still trying to get over that because it happens when I didn't do anything wrong to begin with. I'll admit that I still have a lot of difficulty coping with this because I used to think like this: (And here's a way to immediately get to the point at hand.)
Being good and doing good. = Being loved/liked by "just about" everybody else. I was dead wrong the entire time. I only happened to accept it this year, but I've gotten so used to that particular concept of "give and take decency" that anything other than that incessantly fucks with me to Hell and back. This is also as to why I rarely forgive and forget. It just doesn't seem worth it at all. What for? For people to hurt me over and over again? I don't think so. I think it's safe to say that 1% - 25% of me is forgiving most of the time. The rest of that 75% - 99% doesn't even bother to think about forgiveness, and at least it's somewhat a step up from being 100% unforgiving. I think the four things out of all this bullshit that bother me the most would be the following: 1. Being fucked over. (Obviously.) 2. Thinly veiled insults/personal attacks disguised as an attempt to deliver constructive criticism and supportive behavior. 3. People acting as if they're entitled to forgiveness. 4. Being hated for doing the right thing. (Now this really makes me scream: What has the world come to!?) Imagine that!? Being hated for doing the right thing! Now that really drives me insane. Last edited by Kris on Wed Apr 07, 2010 10:09 am; edited 1 time in total |
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| psychopathic_midget | |||
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Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 10:16 pm |
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| Can't blame people for not being trusting though, Kris. Often people commit good deeds, buth bad intentions or hidden strings attatched. Should you do a stranger a kindness, some will be truthfully grateful, others will question your intent but not express it outwardly, and others will be complete dicks due to pride or simply because they think of you as a "social vampire". |
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| "Embrace our impermanence, for we all are perishable." -Cryptopsy |
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| Zirconium Pants | |||
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Posted: Sun Jul 25, 2010 4:17 pm |
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| lol |
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| EVERLA5T_RULE5 | |||
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Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2010 5:58 pm |
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Me too, I agree with you... I actually have to laugh... The reason I am laughing is because I cannot find a word in the English language that can actually describe a human being... Complex, contradictory, ironic, I cannot find the correct word... No matter how hard you try to please people, at least one person is always going to ruin everything. A human being is more complex than a differential equation. |
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